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Dear woman
Stop beating yourself up.
You are doing enough.
Being a woman in our regular world is a challenging task.
It has been conditioned since birth that the world works in a certain way, and we are meant to look, sound and be a certain way .
So things will be rough when you decide to be different or do something different.
It becomes difficult to wake up sometimes and look at yourself in the mirror because you don’t fit in.
It becomes challenging to make your partner realize why you need to spend time alone and breathe.
It becomes difficult to make your family understand that you are not to be disturbed when you are in your private time.
Eating the foods you love becomes difficult because you have been told countless times that it is bad for you.
It becomes difficult to show up in your most comfortable body size because society has said you must be leaner or bigger to fit in.
Taking care of your body and mind becomes difficult, and you become reactive to it.
Sometimes it feels like you don’t know what you look like,
Sometimes you will feel like you’re being pulled in a million directions but are moving nowhere, especially not in the direction you want to go.
You have tried different diets and exercise programs, and it feels like you get more confused as the day passes.
One diet after the other, the fitness journey is not for the faint-hearted, you say to yourself.
And that is when the negative self-talk comes rushing in.
“Gosh, look at my stomach.”
“I look pregnant today.”
“I have a Christian mother’s hand.”
“I could never feel good about this ugly body.”
“My body gets worse every day.”
“It’s a waste of time.”
“I can’t do anything right.”
“I’m not strong enough to care for this body.”
“I don’t have the willpower or the discipline.”
“I wish I could be thinner.”
“I am not good enough.”
“I’m such a failure.”
“I wish I could just disappear.”
“I’m not worth it.”
“I am not lean enough to start exercising enough.”
“No one cares.”
“What will they think of me?”
Such self-talk is neither helpful to you nor your body.
Don’t demotivate yourself so much that you can never recover from it.
Don’t demotivate yourself so much that you lose yourself.
You’re human. You are part of Nature. That means your life will have good and bad days like every living being’s.
Some days, you’ll be so motivated and willing to remain positive and energetic
. Some days, you’ll love your body so much that you are willing to show it off
. And some days, you’ll be too busy or tired and too sad to do anything.
Just because you’re having a bad day or an emotional season doesnt mean you are not solid or willed enough, or beautiful enough
. That’s just the taste of that day.
Tomorrow, try your best to make things different and in your favor.
And the first place to start is by talking to yourself in your Favor
.“My life is getting better every day.”
“Caring for my body is not a waste of time.”
“I eat and enjoy food.”
“Doing an easy movement is not a waste of time
.” slowing downing my eating is not a waste of time.”
“I am learning how to do things right.”
“I am learning how to be kind to my body.”
“My body is beautiful and deserves care “
“I can always learn the art of moving in a way that serves me .”
“I am good enough.”
“I am strong.”
“Today, I’ll take a break. And tomorrow, I’ll have fun.”
“I am totally worth it.”
“My body is precious.”
“My self-worth is not depended on what others think of my body.”
You are doing your best at the moment.
There’s nothing wrong with missing a day, failing, or falling. You don’t have to stay in the sad pit for much longer than you have to. You need to support your Mind and body. Give yourself grace and hug, and return to caring for your body.
Taking care of your body is a beautiful thing; it is a process, and it last a long time to make it worth your while if you are going to 😀
Embrace Fairness …be kind to your body
Move in a way that feels good.
Eat what makes your body feel great.
Love your body and food, and find pleasure in the thing you do for self-care.
The best that you can do right now is what you’re doing. You don’t have to beat yourself up.” – Steven Aitchison.
